Xmas are approaching! Isn’t that time to celebrate? Not for just anyone. If you are single fearing appearing alone during the holidays, your might want the festivities to make sure you pass as quickly as possible. “No time of the year might be thus dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to become with, things would have been different”, you whisper to make sure you yourself time and again.
The secret to doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you were not able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made you will fail in your relationships until now. Is it really so that you just didn’t come across partners have been good enough for you? Is it seriously so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful closeness?
Using the holidays’ time to figure out what are the true factors that cause your inability to have a severe, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is a time well-spent. The insights you’ll gain will help you find a suitable partner with whom to develop and maintain a successful intimacy.
The odds probably do not job in your favour! Therefore, it can be up to you to do something about your situation. Therefore, you may want to use the holidays this year to figure out steps to create a change for next 12 months! How can you use this year’s holidays to become able to have a relationship next year?
Or you might find away that you haven’t been successful locating a partner until now not simply because no “suitable” partner got here your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for a single reason or another); or that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you went with that they terminated their bond; or that you were thus controlling and demanding more and more of your dates just rejected your attempts to getting better and maybe even to transferring together.
What makes you think that between occasionally a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful rapport? If you have been failing in having a wonderful relationship as yet, what are the odds that you will reach your goals in having one next year?
Using the holiday seasons to think these over may also help you understand the true reasons for ones failures. You might find, for example, there are patterns of behaviors which inturn repeat themselves throughout your past-relationships which always caused conflicts between you and unfortunately your partners.
Use the holidays to figure out how not to be alone next year. You might think that such advice is usually ridiculous. Why to think about following year when this year’s holidays are approaching? The reason is simple: if you have been sole for a long time, what guarantee have you seen that you will not be one next year as well?
Could it really be for which you did all you could to find a partner with whom to formulate a good relationship but decided not to have luck? Well, each one of can serve you as good reasons and rationalizations to not being a success. But is it really the lawsuit? Or could there get other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that an issue in you hinders and prevents you from developing a successful relationship?